The opposite of loving people is not hate, but using them (Ashour, Mausolf). We want children to understand that God created them for love, and anything less than that falls short of God’s design for their lives. In this podcast, the Lindas discuss being intentional about teaching our kids what love looks like in our relationships. We discuss the differences in the way we approach persons versus things. The Lindas model a conversation that can help a child identify situations in which he or she is being used or abused as well as suggesting a protective response.Read More
We will periodically post blog articles with help for navigating current challenges in parenting and mentoring children.
So many of the choices that kids make surrounding sex and relationships are motivated by the very real longings they experience. Sex and relationships can be false fuels that may seem to satisfy deeper longings. If our kids learn to notice the most real longings and bring them to Jesus to be satisfied by the One who Truly Satisfies, they will be free to make different choices regarding sex and relationships. These are the choices that will lead to a life that flourishes. Let’s briefly unpack this idea of false fuels and real longings, as well as consider some practical approaches to sharing God’s Love with the kids in our lives.Read More
So what is up with The Bachelor and The Bachelorette? I have to confess that I really don’t get the appeal. However, I frequently overhear excited interchanges regarding these shows. I find that I have to back away slowly in order to avoid alienating my friends and family members with an impassioned speech. And then, after some quiet reflection, realize I need to take a breath and ask, “Why have these shows drawn top ratings for the past 16 years? What can I learn as I observe friends and family who seem inextricably drawn to the stories revealed during this hour?”Read More
In the midst of longings and desires, how do we find our way to love others as God does? In this episode, the Lindas refer back to the personalistic norm as a way to love as Jesus loved. Listen as we offer suggestions for conversations addressing questions such as, "If we really love each other, why can't we have sex?" And, "How far is too far?"Read More
Parents and caregivers often want to know how to begin the sex talk. We would suggest, “Don’t begin with the Talk.” This might sound like a bait and switch, or as if we are avoiding your question, but honestly, the best way to deliver “the Talk” using THE conversation’s approach is to not start with the sex talk. Instead, start with where your child came from.Read More
We were made to run on God’s love, but sometimes we believe that we can run on something else. CS Lewis says, “He himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on.” But we have these longings and desires………and we wonder what to do with them. How do we respond to those longings and desires in a way that brings us life and not destruction? In this episode the Lindas will propose some practical help for processing these experiences with our kids - and in our own lives.Read More
About five years ago, I found myself in the audience at a marriage retreat put on by our church. To be completely honest, I have never enjoyed marriage retreats- they seem to ignite in me an overwhelming sense of failure and hopelessness. However, that’s beside the point I want to make here! We entered the meeting room and the presenters sat side by side up on the platform, the wife smiling and looking adoringly at her husband. The topic was the beauty of marital sex. When the woman stood to address the crowd, she began to admonish wives to satisfy their husband’s lusts as a safeguard against their use of pornography and extramarital affairs. My eyebrows raised, my internal alarms began sounding and anger welled up inside of me. Later, after the session, a 20 Something couple approached me. The young man insightfully remarked, “I think I’ve just been called an animal by the retreat speaker! I’m offended!” In a moment, I was given words to verbalize my revulsion to this very common message to wives in Christian contexts.Read More
So singleness is as much a sign of God’s invitation of love and communion with Himself as marriage is. Whether married or single we are called to a life of love. We can invite our kids into a vision of love that is bigger than marital status. In this episode we will take a closer look at ways to help our kids connect to LOVE and overflow with love for others that will direct them into life-giving choices.Read More
In our previous blogs and in our workshop, THE conversation raises some serious questions regarding popular Christian teaching surrounding marriage, sex, sexual purity and single celibacy. Our unspoken and underlying assumptions:
· Marriage and sex in the context of marriage are prerequisites for a satisfying and fulfilling life.
· Single celibacy is a sentence for a life of deprivation and loneliness.
These assumptions not only contradict Biblical teaching but are the source of pain, resentment and many destructive choices.Read More
This episode was recorded by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub for their podcast, In This Together. THE conversation was incredibly honored to join the In This Together podcast to discuss questions that Dr. Josh and Christi have received from parents about how to talk about sex with their kids.
From In This Together: What happens when our son is exposed to pornography at a young age? Or our daughter begins hearing about sex at school and asking you questions? Many of our own parents didn’t model for us how to have these difficult conversations with our kids. Not only that, our kids seem to be exposed to sex at even younger ages today.
In this episode, we revisit with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part two of a two part series.
In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss with us how to talk to our kids about sex through a simple, yet powerful framework of flourishing.
how to talk to our kids about difficult topics, like when they discover their private parts
why a Theology of the Body is an important framework for us as adults as well
age-appropriate ways–from preschool through the teen years–to talk to our kids about sex