The Bachelor and Porn: The Truth They Reveal About Romance, Sex and Marriage

The Bachelor and Porn: The Truth They Reveal About Romance, Sex and Marriage

So what is up with The Bachelor and The Bachelorette? I have to confess that I really don’t get the appeal. However, I frequently overhear excited interchanges regarding these shows. I find that I have to back away slowly in order to avoid alienating my friends and family members with an impassioned speech. And then, after some quiet reflection, realize I need to take a breath and ask, “Why have these shows drawn top ratings for the past 16 years? What can I learn as I observe friends and family who seem inextricably drawn to the stories revealed during this hour?”

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Episode 18: Longings and Desires: Express, Repress or Option C?

Episode 18: Longings and Desires: Express, Repress or Option C?

We were made to run on God’s love, but sometimes we believe that we can run on something else. CS Lewis says, “He himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on.” But we have these longings and desires………and we wonder what to do with them. How do we respond to those longings and desires in a way that brings us life and not destruction? In this episode the Lindas will propose some practical help for processing these experiences with our kids - and in our own lives.

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Rethinking Lust

Rethinking Lust

About five years ago, I found myself in the audience at a marriage retreat put on by our church. To be completely honest, I have never enjoyed marriage retreats- they seem to ignite in me an overwhelming sense of failure and hopelessness. However, that’s beside the point I want to make here! We entered the meeting room and the presenters sat side by side up on the platform, the wife smiling and looking adoringly at her husband. The topic was the beauty of marital sex. When the woman stood to address the crowd, she began to admonish wives to satisfy their husband’s lusts as a safeguard against their use of pornography and extramarital affairs. My eyebrows raised, my internal alarms began sounding and anger welled up inside of me. Later, after the session, a 20 Something couple approached me. The young man insightfully remarked, “I think I’ve just been called an animal by the retreat speaker! I’m offended!” In a moment, I was given words to verbalize my revulsion to this very common message to wives in Christian contexts.

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Episode 13: What About Lust?

Episode 13: What About Lust?

In Genesis 3, we see the serpent approaching Adam and Eve with a suggestion - a suggestion that perhaps God had been withholding "the good life" from them.  They considered and the question took root in their hearts.  They strike out on their own and grasp for MORE apart from Him.  Immediately blame, shame and suspicion entered the picture and they hid from God and each other.  In the Theology of the Body by Pope John Paul II this event is described in this way: "Before the fall, there was no threat to the dignity of the person.  They desired nothing but to love as God loves.  After the fall, they covered themselves as a protection from lust."  Their choice to grasp for the good life apart from God delivered them into a realm where instead of experiencing a life of giving and receiving love, it was possible to become the vicim or perpetrator of use and abuse.  Lust had entered into our human experience.

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Episode 8: Why Doesn't Marriage Satisfy?

Episode 8: Why Doesn't Marriage Satisfy?

If we're honest, even Christ followers have been so influenced by culture that many of us have come to the conclusion that finding, "the one," or sexual experiences, or marriage or some combination are prerequisite for a satisfying and full life.  What if our longings for union, intimacy and ecstasy point to a reality greater than anything we can experience in an earthly relationship?The Lindas discuss and talk about practical ways we can help children to find the satisfaction of all their desires in God alone. 

 

 

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