Rethinking Lust

Rethinking Lust

About five years ago, I found myself in the audience at a marriage retreat put on by our church. To be completely honest, I have never enjoyed marriage retreats- they seem to ignite in me an overwhelming sense of failure and hopelessness. However, that’s beside the point I want to make here! We entered the meeting room and the presenters sat side by side up on the platform, the wife smiling and looking adoringly at her husband. The topic was the beauty of marital sex. When the woman stood to address the crowd, she began to admonish wives to satisfy their husband’s lusts as a safeguard against their use of pornography and extramarital affairs. My eyebrows raised, my internal alarms began sounding and anger welled up inside of me. Later, after the session, a 20 Something couple approached me. The young man insightfully remarked, “I think I’ve just been called an animal by the retreat speaker! I’m offended!” In a moment, I was given words to verbalize my revulsion to this very common message to wives in Christian contexts.

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Episode 16: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex, a Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

Episode 16: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex, a Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

This episode was recorded by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub for their podcast, In This Together. THE conversation was incredibly honored to join the In This Together podcast to discuss questions that Dr. Josh and Christi have received from parents about how to talk about sex with their kids.

From In This Together: What happens when our son is exposed to pornography at a young age? Or our daughter begins hearing about sex at school and asking you questions? Many of our own parents didn’t model for us how to have these difficult conversations with our kids. Not only that, our kids seem to be exposed to sex at even younger ages today.

In this episode, we revisit with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part two of a two part series.

In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss with us how to talk to our kids about sex through a simple, yet powerful framework of flourishing.

We discuss:

  • how to talk to our kids about difficult topics, like when they discover their private parts

  • why a Theology of the Body is an important framework for us as adults as well

  • age-appropriate ways–from preschool through the teen years–to talk to our kids about sex

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Episode 9: Marriage and Sex: Moving Beyond The Rules

Episode 9: Marriage and Sex: Moving Beyond The Rules

When Jesus was asked about marriage, He points back to the Genesis account and the first marriage for clarity.  If we're to understand the design for marriage and sex, we must first come to understand the covenantal ceremony practiced in Old Testament literature. In this podcast, we'll explore the way the covenant sheds light on the connection between sex, wedding ceremony and marriage.

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Episode 7: The Meaning of Our Creation as Male and Female

Episode 7: The Meaning of Our Creation as Male and Female

In this podcast, Linda and Linda discuss our creation as male and female from the Genesis account.  They explore misunderstandings of the meaning of our design as human persons and why understanding the bigger vision this design points to is so crucial to us and to the children in our lives. This conversation brings up the discussion of the objectification of women and how we can teach children in a way that can change these destructive cultural norms. 

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Changing the Conversation About Our Bodies

Changing the Conversation About Our Bodies

When my girls were babies, some of my most treasured moments were when they would explore my face, arms, and hands with their tiny little hands and their expressive eyes and smiles. Each daughter at her earliest age was getting to know her self and me, through our bodies. 

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Episode 5: The Body Reveals A Person

Episode 5: The Body Reveals A Person

The body is not a dirty shell or fleshy prison for our souls, but a “fearfully and wonderfully” (Psalm 139) designed expression of who God is and who we are. In fact, the body and person can’t be separated. My body reveals the beauty of the Image of God. I can know the ways you reflect God as I know you through your body that expresses your person. 
The true context in which we were created in Eden invites us to accept a much deeper and more meaningful lens for seeing and understanding our bodies. We see the body as an expression of self – simply put, it is how people know and engage with you! And it was with the embodied Adam that God engaged. There is no other way for a human to encounter the mystery of God in His fullness than through the human body; Through Christ’s body and our own. 

 

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