What DOES Love Look Like?

What DOES Love Look Like?

How many times has love been the rationale to sleep with someone, cohabitate or end a marriage? How often has a woman or man been used or coerced with the words, “I love you,” or, “if you love me?” The word “love” is used so frequently and so freely. 

 

As parents we use the word “love” to communicate the depth of feeling and commitment to our children. We also use the word “love” to offer kids a roadmap for decision-making. Thoughtful parents and caregivers frequently use the word “love” with children while having “the Talk,” or in any of the myriad of conversations regarding relationships and dating.

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Episode 20: Safeguarding Children from Use or Abuse

Episode 20: Safeguarding Children from Use or Abuse

The opposite of loving people is not hate, but using them (Ashour, Mausolf). We want children to understand that God created them for love, and anything less than that falls short of God’s design for their lives. In this podcast, the Lindas discuss being intentional about teaching our kids what love looks like in our relationships. We discuss the differences in the way we approach persons versus things. The Lindas model a conversation that can help a child identify situations in which he or she is being used or abused as well as suggesting a protective response.

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What Fuel is Your Child Running On?

What Fuel is Your Child Running On?

So many of the choices that kids make surrounding sex and relationships are motivated by the very real longings they experience. Sex and relationships can be false fuels that may seem to satisfy deeper longings. If our kids learn to notice the most real longings and bring them to Jesus to be satisfied by the One who Truly Satisfies, they will be free to make different choices regarding sex and relationships. These are the choices that will lead to a life that flourishes. Let’s briefly unpack this idea of false fuels and real longings, as well as consider some practical approaches to sharing God’s Love with the kids in our lives.

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The Talk: Where do I Start? (HINT) Probably Not Where You Think

The Talk: Where do I Start? (HINT) Probably Not Where You Think

Parents and caregivers often want to know how to begin the sex talk. We would suggest, “Don’t begin with the Talk.” This might sound like a bait and switch, or as if we are avoiding your question, but honestly, the best way to deliver “the Talk” using THE conversation’s approach is to not start with the sex talk. Instead, start with where your child came from. 

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Episode 16: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex, a Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

Episode 16: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex, a Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

This episode was recorded by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub for their podcast, In This Together. THE conversation was incredibly honored to join the In This Together podcast to discuss questions that Dr. Josh and Christi have received from parents about how to talk about sex with their kids.

From In This Together: What happens when our son is exposed to pornography at a young age? Or our daughter begins hearing about sex at school and asking you questions? Many of our own parents didn’t model for us how to have these difficult conversations with our kids. Not only that, our kids seem to be exposed to sex at even younger ages today.

In this episode, we revisit with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part two of a two part series.

In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss with us how to talk to our kids about sex through a simple, yet powerful framework of flourishing.

We discuss:

  • how to talk to our kids about difficult topics, like when they discover their private parts

  • why a Theology of the Body is an important framework for us as adults as well

  • age-appropriate ways–from preschool through the teen years–to talk to our kids about sex

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Is There a Way to Talk With Youth about Single Celibacy Without Sounding Crazy or Irrelevant?- and more FAQs!

Is There a Way to Talk With Youth about Single Celibacy Without Sounding Crazy or Irrelevant?- and more FAQs!

If we can live a fulfilling life being single, why do people long for communion and togetherness with each other?

In our workshop, we talk about the source of our creation as the eternal exchange of love that flows between the persons of the Trinity.  We were made from the love of God.  We were made for the love of God.  And we were made to be an overflow of  God’s love through our lives into the lives of others.  In other words, our lives are all about communion and togetherness from the very beginning.  Marriage is one way to live out our calling to communion and togetherness.  It is not the only way.  We can also live out a calling of single celibacy, giving and receiving love as we unselfishly give of ourselves to others and our community in non-sexual ways.  The fifth and sixth sessions of our workshop help us to teach our kids ways to expand our understanding of love into the big picture of giving life and love to others in our world.  This big picture life brings freedom to understand that we can fulfill our calling in beautiful ways outside of marriage, much like Jesus did.

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Episode 15: Kids and Body Image, A Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

Episode 15: Kids and Body Image, A Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

This episode was recorded by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub for their podcast, In This Together. THE conversation was incredibly honored to join the In This Together podcast to discuss questions that Dr. Josh and Christi have received from parents about kids and body image struggles. In order to discover how parents can intentionally transform conversations about body image, THE conversation explores with Dr. Josh and Christi: the incalculable and unchanging value of the human person, the truth that the body reveals the person, and God’s intentional design of our body as life-giving and love-giving. If you haven’t listened to THE conversation’s earlier podcasts about the value of the human person and the body that include how to integrate these truths into the parenting of your children, consider listening to:

The Value of the Human Person

The Body Reveals a Person

The Body and Person Are Inseparable

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How Do I Talk to My Sexually Active Child? - And Other FAQs!

1. How do I address sex with my kids from a covenant point of view if they have already had sex?

I think as our kids get into the later teen years, and demonstrate resistance to any directions from us regarding life choices, we definitely need to share insights learned as they have impacted our own lives. This might sound something like,

"I went to a workshop and learned something surprising, not at all what I expected. The speakers talked about sex as a sign of a covenant. God used covenants to establish relationships between Himself and His people. For example, the rainbow was a sign of the covenant between God and the people of the earth when God made a solemn vow that He would never again flood the earth. God describes marriage all throughout the Bible as a covenant relationship. The sign of a marital covenant is sexual union. I found it so interesting that the implication of this was that every time a married couple has sex, they are renewing their covenantal marriage vows."

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