How Do I Talk to My Sexually Active Child? - And Other FAQs!

1. How do I address sex with my kids from a covenant point of view if they have already had sex?

I think as our kids get into the later teen years, and demonstrate resistance to any directions from us regarding life choices, we definitely need to share insights learned as they have impacted our own lives. This might sound something like,

"I went to a workshop and learned something surprising, not at all what I expected. The speakers talked about sex as a sign of a covenant. God used covenants to establish relationships between Himself and His people. For example, the rainbow was a sign of the covenant between God and the people of the earth when God made a solemn vow that He would never again flood the earth. God describes marriage all throughout the Bible as a covenant relationship. The sign of a marital covenant is sexual union. I found it so interesting that the implication of this was that every time a married couple has sex, they are renewing their covenantal marriage vows."

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What's Sex Got To Do With It?

What's Sex Got To Do With It?

Weddings can be simple, extravagant, excruciatingly long, delightful or the best party of the year! My favorite wedding surprise was one that commenced with a procession of bridesmaids and groomsmen each playing an unusual instrument while strolling down the grassy center aisle under tall shade trees. In my day, (here comes the old lady story) we all had pretty much the same wedding: songs, slide shows, cake, sherbet and gingerale punch, nuts and mints. But I love that many weddings today are intentionally planned in a way that expresses something of “who” the bride and groom are as persons. I’m sure it’s not hard to guess some of the particular personality traits of the couple hosting the aforementioned wedding.

In an effort to showcase the individuality and unique nature of the persons entering into marital union, couples last year spent an average of $33,391 according to The Knot 2017 Real Wedding Study. Lauren Kay, who wrote an article entitled, “The Top Wedding Trends for 2018” names these among the top ten:

-asking for cash

-balloon arches

-capes

-single stem bouquets

-open fire cooking and

-Lipstick Touchup Bars!

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Episode 10: The Language of Sex

Episode 10: The Language of Sex

We all recognize that our  bodies speak.  Often we hear someone speak with a voice, but his or her body contradicts the message spoken.  This was God's intention from the beginning; that our bodies and our voices would speak in sync with His design.  How does an understanding of the language of the body bring clarity to our understanding of sex, marriage and weddings?  We'll explore this truth as well as discuss ways we can communicate it with the kids in our lives.

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Episode 9: Marriage and Sex: Moving Beyond The Rules

Episode 9: Marriage and Sex: Moving Beyond The Rules

When Jesus was asked about marriage, He points back to the Genesis account and the first marriage for clarity.  If we're to understand the design for marriage and sex, we must first come to understand the covenantal ceremony practiced in Old Testament literature. In this podcast, we'll explore the way the covenant sheds light on the connection between sex, wedding ceremony and marriage.

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