We were made to run on God’s love, but sometimes we believe that we can run on something else. CS Lewis says, “He himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on.” But we have these longings and desires………and we wonder what to do with them. How do we respond to those longings and desires in a way that brings us life and not destruction? In this episode the Lindas will propose some practical help for processing these experiences with our kids - and in our own lives.Read More
We will periodically post blog articles with help for navigating current challenges in parenting and mentoring children.
This episode was recorded by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub for their podcast, In This Together. THE conversation was incredibly honored to join the In This Together podcast to discuss questions that Dr. Josh and Christi have received from parents about how to talk about sex with their kids.
From In This Together: What happens when our son is exposed to pornography at a young age? Or our daughter begins hearing about sex at school and asking you questions? Many of our own parents didn’t model for us how to have these difficult conversations with our kids. Not only that, our kids seem to be exposed to sex at even younger ages today.
In this episode, we revisit with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part two of a two part series.
In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss with us how to talk to our kids about sex through a simple, yet powerful framework of flourishing.
how to talk to our kids about difficult topics, like when they discover their private parts
why a Theology of the Body is an important framework for us as adults as well
age-appropriate ways–from preschool through the teen years–to talk to our kids about sex
1. How do I address sex with my kids from a covenant point of view if they have already had sex?
I think as our kids get into the later teen years, and demonstrate resistance to any directions from us regarding life choices, we definitely need to share insights learned as they have impacted our own lives. This might sound something like,
"I went to a workshop and learned something surprising, not at all what I expected. The speakers talked about sex as a sign of a covenant. God used covenants to establish relationships between Himself and His people. For example, the rainbow was a sign of the covenant between God and the people of the earth when God made a solemn vow that He would never again flood the earth. God describes marriage all throughout the Bible as a covenant relationship. The sign of a marital covenant is sexual union. I found it so interesting that the implication of this was that every time a married couple has sex, they are renewing their covenantal marriage vows."Read More
The Linda's talk about the status of singleness and of marriage as vocations, hoping to infuse deeper understanding into each of these callings. All of us as Christ followers are summoned by God to a vocation which is subject to change during the different seasons of our lives. It is crucial for us to re-envision both the vocation of marriage and the vocation of single celibate life as an invitation or calling from God to a life of flourishing in communion with Him. In the big picture, the invitation of God into both vocations is the same.Read More
In this podcast, Linda and Linda discuss our creation as male and female from the Genesis account. They explore misunderstandings of the meaning of our design as human persons and why understanding the bigger vision this design points to is so crucial to us and to the children in our lives. This conversation brings up the discussion of the objectification of women and how we can teach children in a way that can change these destructive cultural norms.Read More
The body is not a dirty shell or fleshy prison for our souls, but a “fearfully and wonderfully” (Psalm 139) designed expression of who God is and who we are. In fact, the body and person can’t be separated. My body reveals the beauty of the Image of God. I can know the ways you reflect God as I know you through your body that expresses your person.
The true context in which we were created in Eden invites us to accept a much deeper and more meaningful lens for seeing and understanding our bodies. We see the body as an expression of self – simply put, it is how people know and engage with you! And it was with the embodied Adam that God engaged. There is no other way for a human to encounter the mystery of God in His fullness than through the human body; Through Christ’s body and our own.
We dream that our children will flourish. And we’ve discovered that we flourish in life when we live consistently with the truth regarding human value – our own and that of others. Loving and valuing others sounds great doesn’t it? I can’t imagine encouraging anything less than this as a mentor to children or even adults. When it comes right down to it though, there is a vast array of opinions about what love looks like. And yet, we need to figure this out if we’re to experience a life of flourishing.Read More
I want my kids to flourish. And yet in the daily waking up, packing lunches and backpacks, school, homework, carpool, extra activities, church and community living and doing it all over the next day, I’ve noticed my kids can feel drained, not flourishing. The feelings that seem to drain them the most come when they perceive that something threatens their personal value and they get caught up with comparing themselves to others, usually in the form of what others have, such as technology, pets, toys, or experiences. Even more ensnaring, is when my girls compare themselves to their own (usually unattainable) expectations of who they should be – it starts so early!Read More
Although we would all affirm the value of a human person in theory, have we really thought through the implications of what this would look like in our own lives, let alone the lives of our children? We flourish when we live consistently with the truth regarding human value -- our own and that of others. When we fail to acknowledge the value and dignity of others, we're actually standing in the way of human flourishing rather than accessing the life to which God has invited us. The Lindas explore what it means to really value another person and practical ways for helping our kids to integrate this value into their relationships. Find out more about our workshop on our website theconversationworkshop.com/workshop.
Flourishing. If you were to draw or paint a picture that expresses the word, “flourishing,” what would you include? I don’t paint or draw but my mind is drawn to Garrapata where I’ve hiked in Big Sur after an El Nino season; a place filled with lush wildflowers of every color, streams of water splashing over rocks, towering redwood trees shading the path with greenery and me, attempting to drink it all in, enabled in the moment to be fully present.Read More