Episode 16: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex, a Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

Episode 16: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex, a Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

This episode was recorded by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub for their podcast, In This Together. THE conversation was incredibly honored to join the In This Together podcast to discuss questions that Dr. Josh and Christi have received from parents about how to talk about sex with their kids.

From In This Together: What happens when our son is exposed to pornography at a young age? Or our daughter begins hearing about sex at school and asking you questions? Many of our own parents didn’t model for us how to have these difficult conversations with our kids. Not only that, our kids seem to be exposed to sex at even younger ages today.

In this episode, we revisit with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part two of a two part series.

In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss with us how to talk to our kids about sex through a simple, yet powerful framework of flourishing.

We discuss:

  • how to talk to our kids about difficult topics, like when they discover their private parts

  • why a Theology of the Body is an important framework for us as adults as well

  • age-appropriate ways–from preschool through the teen years–to talk to our kids about sex

Read More

Episode 15: Kids and Body Image, A Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

Episode 15: Kids and Body Image, A Conversation with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

This episode was recorded by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub for their podcast, In This Together. THE conversation was incredibly honored to join the In This Together podcast to discuss questions that Dr. Josh and Christi have received from parents about kids and body image struggles. In order to discover how parents can intentionally transform conversations about body image, THE conversation explores with Dr. Josh and Christi: the incalculable and unchanging value of the human person, the truth that the body reveals the person, and God’s intentional design of our body as life-giving and love-giving. If you haven’t listened to THE conversation’s earlier podcasts about the value of the human person and the body that include how to integrate these truths into the parenting of your children, consider listening to:

The Value of the Human Person

The Body Reveals a Person

The Body and Person Are Inseparable

Read More

Episode 12: Single Celibacy, An Invitation to MORE or Deprivation?

Episode 12: Single Celibacy, An Invitation to MORE or Deprivation?

It is interesting to note that both Jesus and Paul were single and celibate.  We often fall prey to feeling sorry for those who are not married and yet how did Jesus experience the abundant kind of life apart from sex and marriage? In this episode the Lindas discuss the vocation of single celibacy, what we can learn about intimately connecting with God from those who have lived this vocation out, and ways to help our kids learn to understand it as an invitation to MORE.

Read More

Episode 11: Self Inflicted Wounds:Our Unexamined Conversations Surrounding Marriage

Episode 11: Self Inflicted Wounds:Our Unexamined Conversations Surrounding Marriage

The Linda's talk about the status of singleness and of marriage as vocations, hoping to infuse deeper understanding into each of these callings. All of us as Christ followers are summoned by God to a vocation which is subject to change during the different seasons of our lives. It is crucial for us to re-envision both the vocation of marriage and the vocation of single celibate life as an invitation or calling from God to a life of flourishing in communion with Him. In the big picture, the invitation of God into both vocations is the same.

Read More

Episode 8: Why Doesn't Marriage Satisfy?

Episode 8: Why Doesn't Marriage Satisfy?

If we're honest, even Christ followers have been so influenced by culture that many of us have come to the conclusion that finding, "the one," or sexual experiences, or marriage or some combination are prerequisite for a satisfying and full life.  What if our longings for union, intimacy and ecstasy point to a reality greater than anything we can experience in an earthly relationship?The Lindas discuss and talk about practical ways we can help children to find the satisfaction of all their desires in God alone. 

 

 

Read More

Kids Judge their Bodies, How You can Help

Kids Judge their Bodies, How You can Help

We're all aware on some level that we've learned to judge our bodies through osmosis of the culture we live.  This has been the source of choices that result in impediments to a life of flourishing.  How can we stand in the way of this onslaught and replace the damaging thoughts that shape our self assessments?

 

In previous blogs we’ve established that we are embodied human persons, that the body expresses the person, and that the body and the person can’t be separated. It’s now important to revisit the challenge of separating the value of the person from the appearance of the body.  In what way is the value of my person related to the way I see my body?

 

Well, the perceived answer quickly becomes a personal one, so I’ll just speak from my own experience. I might be able to give a good Sunday school answer, “If I had a God-made price tag attached to my person it would read, ‘PRICELESS.’” Admittedly, it’s easier me to say this about others, but with an internal struggle, that would be invisible to you, I could admit that I am priceless because God sees us as priceless. But if I had to concede that this God-made price tag would necessarily be attached to my body that expresses my person, I would more likely cringe. I evaluate my body with a different kind of criteria and sometimes this means more to me than the value God claims that He has bestowed on me as a person. My husband and I have even occasionally started to exchange comments (when we are sure the kids aren’t around) about our aging bodies. Throw aging into the mix and the criteria with which I tend to evaluate my body’s appearance drastically reduces the number of days I can honestly assign positive value to my own body and therefore my embodied self. 

Read More

Helping Kids to Integrate the Body and the Person

Helping Kids to Integrate the Body and the Person

Sometime after Donald Trump became president, I happened to hear an incredibly insightful comment from a news anchor. This comment seemed to be an afterthought at the end of a story that made mention of Melania Trump. I honestly do not remember the event or topic of the story, but much of the focus of the story was about Melania’s clothes and accessories. Video was shown highlighting Melania’s appearance, and the anchor’s final comment just before cutting away to the next story was, “Since we don’t know anything about who Melania Trump is, we are left to comment on what she looks like.”

Read More

Changing the Conversation About Our Bodies

Changing the Conversation About Our Bodies

When my girls were babies, some of my most treasured moments were when they would explore my face, arms, and hands with their tiny little hands and their expressive eyes and smiles. Each daughter at her earliest age was getting to know her self and me, through our bodies. 

Read More

The Nagging Question

The Nagging Question

I want my kids to flourish. And yet in the daily waking up, packing lunches and backpacks, school, homework, carpool, extra activities, church and community living and doing it all over the next day, I’ve noticed my kids can feel drained, not flourishing. The feelings that seem to drain them the most come when they perceive that something threatens their personal value and they get caught up with comparing themselves to others, usually in the form of what others have, such as technology, pets, toys, or experiences. Even more ensnaring, is when my girls compare themselves to their own (usually unattainable) expectations of who they should be – it starts so early!

Read More