Episode 21: THE conversation Workshop Podcast Version!

Episode 21: THE conversation Workshop Podcast Version!

If you’ve ever wished that you could get a big picture view of THE conversation Workshop in one session, here it is! The Lindas explain fundamental concepts necessary for teaching the kids in our lives the way to experience a life that flourishes. We discuss the impact these concepts can have on decision making regarding the body, sex and relationships when established early. Episode 21 ends with The Talk, demonstrating for us how the pre-adolescent talk sounds in the context of THE conversation.

Thank you so much for listening to THE conversation Podcast on iTunes and on Google Play, or on our website! Congratulations! You have reached the conclusion of Podcast Season 1. If you have listened in chronological order from the first episode to Episode 20, you will have followed the general arc of THE conversation Workshop in the comfort of your own space and at your own pace. If not, we encourage you to go back and listen to all of our podcasts starting here.

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What DOES Love Look Like?

What DOES Love Look Like?

How many times has love been the rationale to sleep with someone, cohabitate or end a marriage? How often has a woman or man been used or coerced with the words, “I love you,” or, “if you love me?” The word “love” is used so frequently and so freely. 

 

As parents we use the word “love” to communicate the depth of feeling and commitment to our children. We also use the word “love” to offer kids a roadmap for decision-making. Thoughtful parents and caregivers frequently use the word “love” with children while having “the Talk,” or in any of the myriad of conversations regarding relationships and dating.

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Episode 20: Safeguarding Children from Use or Abuse

Episode 20: Safeguarding Children from Use or Abuse

The opposite of loving people is not hate, but using them (Ashour, Mausolf). We want children to understand that God created them for love, and anything less than that falls short of God’s design for their lives. In this podcast, the Lindas discuss being intentional about teaching our kids what love looks like in our relationships. We discuss the differences in the way we approach persons versus things. The Lindas model a conversation that can help a child identify situations in which he or she is being used or abused as well as suggesting a protective response.

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What Fuel is Your Child Running On?

What Fuel is Your Child Running On?

So many of the choices that kids make surrounding sex and relationships are motivated by the very real longings they experience. Sex and relationships can be false fuels that may seem to satisfy deeper longings. If our kids learn to notice the most real longings and bring them to Jesus to be satisfied by the One who Truly Satisfies, they will be free to make different choices regarding sex and relationships. These are the choices that will lead to a life that flourishes. Let’s briefly unpack this idea of false fuels and real longings, as well as consider some practical approaches to sharing God’s Love with the kids in our lives.

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The Bachelor and Porn: The Truth They Reveal About Romance, Sex and Marriage

The Bachelor and Porn: The Truth They Reveal About Romance, Sex and Marriage

So what is up with The Bachelor and The Bachelorette? I have to confess that I really don’t get the appeal. However, I frequently overhear excited interchanges regarding these shows. I find that I have to back away slowly in order to avoid alienating my friends and family members with an impassioned speech. And then, after some quiet reflection, realize I need to take a breath and ask, “Why have these shows drawn top ratings for the past 16 years? What can I learn as I observe friends and family who seem inextricably drawn to the stories revealed during this hour?”

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The Talk: Where do I Start? (HINT) Probably Not Where You Think

The Talk: Where do I Start? (HINT) Probably Not Where You Think

Parents and caregivers often want to know how to begin the sex talk. We would suggest, “Don’t begin with the Talk.” This might sound like a bait and switch, or as if we are avoiding your question, but honestly, the best way to deliver “the Talk” using THE conversation’s approach is to not start with the sex talk. Instead, start with where your child came from. 

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Episode 18: Longings and Desires: Express, Repress or Option C?

Episode 18: Longings and Desires: Express, Repress or Option C?

We were made to run on God’s love, but sometimes we believe that we can run on something else. CS Lewis says, “He himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on.” But we have these longings and desires………and we wonder what to do with them. How do we respond to those longings and desires in a way that brings us life and not destruction? In this episode the Lindas will propose some practical help for processing these experiences with our kids - and in our own lives.

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Rethinking Lust

Rethinking Lust

About five years ago, I found myself in the audience at a marriage retreat put on by our church. To be completely honest, I have never enjoyed marriage retreats- they seem to ignite in me an overwhelming sense of failure and hopelessness. However, that’s beside the point I want to make here! We entered the meeting room and the presenters sat side by side up on the platform, the wife smiling and looking adoringly at her husband. The topic was the beauty of marital sex. When the woman stood to address the crowd, she began to admonish wives to satisfy their husband’s lusts as a safeguard against their use of pornography and extramarital affairs. My eyebrows raised, my internal alarms began sounding and anger welled up inside of me. Later, after the session, a 20 Something couple approached me. The young man insightfully remarked, “I think I’ve just been called an animal by the retreat speaker! I’m offended!” In a moment, I was given words to verbalize my revulsion to this very common message to wives in Christian contexts.

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Episode 17: An Antidote to Poor Choices: Helping our Kids Connect to Love

Episode 17:  An Antidote to Poor Choices: Helping our Kids Connect to Love

So singleness is as much a sign of God’s invitation of love and communion with Himself as marriage is. Whether married or single we are called to a life of love. We can invite our kids into a vision of love that is bigger than marital status. In this episode we will take a closer look at ways to help our kids connect to LOVE and overflow with love for others that will direct them into life-giving choices.

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Practical Help For Positive Conversations With Kids About Sexual Purity

Practical Help For Positive Conversations With Kids About Sexual Purity

In our previous blogs and in our workshop, THE conversation raises some serious questions regarding popular Christian teaching surrounding marriage, sex, sexual purity and single celibacy.  Our unspoken and underlying assumptions:

·     Marriage and sex in the context of marriage are prerequisites for a satisfying and fulfilling life.

·     Single celibacy is a sentence for a life of deprivation and loneliness.

 These assumptions not only contradict Biblical teaching but are the source of pain, resentment and many destructive choices.  

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