What Fuel is Your Child Running On?

What Fuel is Your Child Running On?

So many of the choices that kids make surrounding sex and relationships are motivated by the very real longings they experience. Sex and relationships can be false fuels that may seem to satisfy deeper longings. If our kids learn to notice the most real longings and bring them to Jesus to be satisfied by the One who Truly Satisfies, they will be free to make different choices regarding sex and relationships. These are the choices that will lead to a life that flourishes. Let’s briefly unpack this idea of false fuels and real longings, as well as consider some practical approaches to sharing God’s Love with the kids in our lives.

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Episode 10: The Language of Sex

Episode 10: The Language of Sex

We all recognize that our  bodies speak.  Often we hear someone speak with a voice, but his or her body contradicts the message spoken.  This was God's intention from the beginning; that our bodies and our voices would speak in sync with His design.  How does an understanding of the language of the body bring clarity to our understanding of sex, marriage and weddings?  We'll explore this truth as well as discuss ways we can communicate it with the kids in our lives.

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Episode 9: Marriage and Sex: Moving Beyond The Rules

Episode 9: Marriage and Sex: Moving Beyond The Rules

When Jesus was asked about marriage, He points back to the Genesis account and the first marriage for clarity.  If we're to understand the design for marriage and sex, we must first come to understand the covenantal ceremony practiced in Old Testament literature. In this podcast, we'll explore the way the covenant sheds light on the connection between sex, wedding ceremony and marriage.

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Why Male and Female? God What Were You Thinking?

Why Male and Female?  God What Were You Thinking?

What were you thinking? I have posed this question many times: when my 5 year old daughter decided to run up on the stage and stood next to the pastor giving his message because she couldn’t find her way back to our seat in the congregation, when my son decided as a young adult that it’s a great idea to practice front flips off of a beachside bluff, or when my husband decided to teach the cat to drink water from a glass on the kitchen counter. We all have those moments when we step back and wonder incredulously what was going on the in the mind of another when….!

We’ve been on a journey with Theology of the Body and THE conversation Workshop. In the beginning, God created us in His image and invited us to a life of flourishing in communion with Himself. In God’s original design, we were created as embodied persons. Contrary to commonly accepted opinion, our bodies are good and are the only way that we can be known and engage with others. Our bodies and our persons cannot be separated without hurting ourselves or others. Neither are our bodies an accessory that adds to or takes away from our ultimate value as persons. So having grasped all of this, we may stop and wonder, “Then why O God, did you make us humans with male and female parts? What were you thinking?”

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Kids Judge their Bodies, How You can Help

Kids Judge their Bodies, How You can Help

We're all aware on some level that we've learned to judge our bodies through osmosis of the culture we live.  This has been the source of choices that result in impediments to a life of flourishing.  How can we stand in the way of this onslaught and replace the damaging thoughts that shape our self assessments?

 

In previous blogs we’ve established that we are embodied human persons, that the body expresses the person, and that the body and the person can’t be separated. It’s now important to revisit the challenge of separating the value of the person from the appearance of the body.  In what way is the value of my person related to the way I see my body?

 

Well, the perceived answer quickly becomes a personal one, so I’ll just speak from my own experience. I might be able to give a good Sunday school answer, “If I had a God-made price tag attached to my person it would read, ‘PRICELESS.’” Admittedly, it’s easier me to say this about others, but with an internal struggle, that would be invisible to you, I could admit that I am priceless because God sees us as priceless. But if I had to concede that this God-made price tag would necessarily be attached to my body that expresses my person, I would more likely cringe. I evaluate my body with a different kind of criteria and sometimes this means more to me than the value God claims that He has bestowed on me as a person. My husband and I have even occasionally started to exchange comments (when we are sure the kids aren’t around) about our aging bodies. Throw aging into the mix and the criteria with which I tend to evaluate my body’s appearance drastically reduces the number of days I can honestly assign positive value to my own body and therefore my embodied self. 

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Episode 7: The Meaning of Our Creation as Male and Female

Episode 7: The Meaning of Our Creation as Male and Female

In this podcast, Linda and Linda discuss our creation as male and female from the Genesis account.  They explore misunderstandings of the meaning of our design as human persons and why understanding the bigger vision this design points to is so crucial to us and to the children in our lives. This conversation brings up the discussion of the objectification of women and how we can teach children in a way that can change these destructive cultural norms. 

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Helping Kids to Integrate the Body and the Person

Helping Kids to Integrate the Body and the Person

Sometime after Donald Trump became president, I happened to hear an incredibly insightful comment from a news anchor. This comment seemed to be an afterthought at the end of a story that made mention of Melania Trump. I honestly do not remember the event or topic of the story, but much of the focus of the story was about Melania’s clothes and accessories. Video was shown highlighting Melania’s appearance, and the anchor’s final comment just before cutting away to the next story was, “Since we don’t know anything about who Melania Trump is, we are left to comment on what she looks like.”

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Episode 6: The Body and Person are Inseparable

Episode 6: The Body and Person are Inseparable

The human body and the person are inseparable.  We are all beginning to recognize this is true with the rise of holistic medicine.  But why is it important for us to understand and integrate this truth into the way we see ourselves and others?  The Lindas explore the implications and suggest practical ways to help those you mentor and parent in establishing this truth and understanding its implications. The impact on our choices regarding relationships cannot be underestimated!

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Changing the Conversation About Our Bodies

Changing the Conversation About Our Bodies

When my girls were babies, some of my most treasured moments were when they would explore my face, arms, and hands with their tiny little hands and their expressive eyes and smiles. Each daughter at her earliest age was getting to know her self and me, through our bodies. 

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Episode 5: The Body Reveals A Person

Episode 5: The Body Reveals A Person

The body is not a dirty shell or fleshy prison for our souls, but a “fearfully and wonderfully” (Psalm 139) designed expression of who God is and who we are. In fact, the body and person can’t be separated. My body reveals the beauty of the Image of God. I can know the ways you reflect God as I know you through your body that expresses your person. 
The true context in which we were created in Eden invites us to accept a much deeper and more meaningful lens for seeing and understanding our bodies. We see the body as an expression of self – simply put, it is how people know and engage with you! And it was with the embodied Adam that God engaged. There is no other way for a human to encounter the mystery of God in His fullness than through the human body; Through Christ’s body and our own. 

 

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